The whole truth – Or
at least some of it
Its amazing when I had all these questions, and got the
answers after 2 years. 2 years of the mind not knowing who you are is pure torture.
I believe in the law of attraction. I asked the world, attracted various people
with various answers to myself.
Now that I found the answer, I’m attracting even more people
to myself who need my answers. Whatever happens, whatever I know about myself,
one thing is certain, I am a spreader. The spreader of news to everyone, the
spreader of tabooed topics and I shock people into listening to me. Its
hilarious how at a girl’s-night-out-dinner I went on a rampage about marriages
and post marriage depression and the women were silent about it.
Everyone wanted more, they said it, I was hyperventilating
while telling them because there is so much to tell. Everyone wants to keep
their boundaries up high but they want to know the answers themselves. Without
asking me their questions how am I supposed to give them their answers? I mean
my truth is the result of my questions, for me to give you your truth you need
to give me your answers no?
Even to those who don’t need my answers I am meeting them
because they need to take me to their friends who need to hear me and my truth.
So. About my truth, I found my truth when I was introduced
to someone who is a very good friend now. The story is funny, how she caught my
attention by saying the most perfect words. There is a trip, into the desert,
where we will be talking about spirituality and how to become our best self. I
was hooked.
Laura Doyle started these workshops for married women,
particularly those who are having a tough time. According to Laura if a woman
can implement 6 skills in her life, the divorces in the world will go down to
zero. These skills are a gateway to knowing yourself, your likes and respecting
and working on the skills that help you love your husband and see them in
another light.
My friend authenticates these skills by backing them with the
Quran and Nahjul Balagah (that’s all we really need, only if we understand)
Women in the western society go through men and men go
through so many women trying to find their perfect soul mate. They don’t stay
in any marriages or relationships long enough to give it a chance. Their perfect
soulmate is in their heads, if they really find a perfect soulmate it will be
in a Disney classic or a romance novel, definitely not in real life. If you
really do find the perfect guy, it is a miracle and you really should hold on
to him. Even people who find perfect husbands have fights, which keep it real.
If you have no fights even, this would mean you just married yourself. Since
your thoughts are so alike that there is no conflict. Now that’s a weird
thought.
I think it all began with industrialization. Women taking on
the role of being men, somehow, they don’t see the stupidity in that. How can
women be better men than men? They start to make all major decisions, protect
the family and provide for them. Who will nurture the environment at home?
Maintain the relationship and work towards the marriage? There aren’t men
wanting to become better women than women so why are women trying to become
better men than men?
If you really care, notice that things would really change
for the better if women are cared for, appreciated, adored and validated. All
they need is love. A lot of things would be fixed if men were respected, and
just that. Respected in every aspect of your married life. They are there to
give, and women are there to receive. Just see how your bodies are made and you
will realize that. (talking about our sexual organs here) There are some men
who this doesn’t apply to though. These are men who are addicted to substance
abuse, are physically abusive or are chronically unfaithful.
If there was respect and love in a house, I don’t think
these kids will grow up the way they are growing up in western societies. How
can you change the way your kids see things if all the kids in the world are
seeing are a naked Miley Cyrus on a wrecking ball shouting out loud that she
came? I mean come on, some sense in the lyrics these days would be appreciated.
So basically what happened is, Laura created a syllabus (which btw is all in the Quran, no one compiled it as nicely I guess) that consists of 6 skills. These 6 skills when implemented will help you be loved, cherished and adored. That's the purpose of the book (First, Kill All The Marriage Counsellors) and Laura's classes. The purpose of the workshop I attended was to grow spiritually. So we dont mind going a few steps ahead and doing the same syllabus.
To get more information about the Surrender Wives, Empowered
Women workshops checkout Laura Doyle.
If anyone starts reading into it and implements it and sees
the miracles that happen in their lives just by softer words being spoken, do
share them with me. We could all use some miraculous stories. 😊
